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how to talk so kids will listen
How to talk so kids will listen
1.
The first step is to put yourself in the child’s shoes
and try to understand what he or she might be feeling.
2.
It’s also important not to judge, criticize, or blame a
child for how they feel.
3.
Talking so kids will listen means learning how to ask
questions that will get them talking about themselves and their feelings.
1. Don’t ask Children
Direct Questions
When we ask children direct questions, they may not be able
to answer because they don't know what we mean. This is called the "Why
question trap". Instead, it's better to ask them open-ended questions and
listen carefully to their responses. There are many reasons why asking a child
directly, “Why do you feel that way?” might not be the best way to approach a
situation. For example, it may be too difficult for children to articulate
their feelings or they may not have the verbal skills yet. The question, “Why
do you feel that way?” can also be seen as an accusation or an attack. It can
make children think that their parents don’t understand them and are blaming
them for feeling the way they do.
2. Is it important
that I always empathize with my child.
Empathy is a key part of communication. It is necessary to have empathy when you are talking with your child. Empathy can be defined as the ability to understand and share the feelings of another person. As parents, it is important that we have empathy for our children so that they will listen to us. One way to have empathy for your child is by understanding their needs, desires, and perspective. Another way to show empathy for your child is by using non-verbal cues such as eye contact or physical touch.
I was at a parent-teacher conference when the teacher said to me, "Your
daughter has a really difficult time understanding empathy."
I was shocked. I always thought that I was doing a good job at parenting my
daughter.
"How so?" I asked her.
The teacher explained that my daughter would never understand empathy
because she never saw me empathize with her. Every time my daughter would ask
for something or if she wanted something, I would say no and then give her an
explanation why it wasn't possible. The teacher said that this made it hard for
my daughter to understand why she couldn't have what she wanted and instead of
getting frustrated, she just accepted it and moved on to the next thing in
life.
It's important that we always empathize with our children because they are
learning from us how to be in the world. If we are not empathetic towards them,
they will grow up without understanding how other people feel about things and
may
3. Are you saying we should let our
children know we agree with their feelings?
The following tips will help you talk so kids will listen:
- Listen without interrupting. - Stay calm and use a soft voice. - Use
simple words, short sentences and slow down your speech when talking with
children. - Be supportive of the child's feelings by agreeing with the child's
statements or asking questions about how the child feels about the situation.
4. If it’s so
important to show my child I understand, what’s wrong with simply saying, “I
understand how you feel”?
Suppose
I try to identify a feeling and it turns out that I’m wrong. What then?
Suppose you try to identify a feeling, but it turns out that you’re wrong. What then? There are a few possible outcomes. The first possibility is that you might realize that you were wrong about what you thought the feeling was. This can be a bit of a letdown, but it’s also an opportunity to learn more about yourself. The second possibility is that you might realize that you were right about what you thought the feeling was. This can be both good and bad – good because you now have confirmation that you’re accurately identifying your feelings, and bad because the feeling might be unpleasant or harmful. The third possibility is that you might not be sure whether you were right or wrong about what you thought the feeling was. This can be frustrating, but it’s also an opportunity to learn more about yourself.
6. Engaging Cooperation
Many parents struggle with how to get their children to
cooperate, whether it's getting them to do their homework or eat their
vegetables. Cooperation is a learned skill, and it's one that can be taught and
nurtured. With a little patience and practice, you can help your child learn
how to cooperate.
The following tips will help you engage cooperation from your
child:
1. Be clear about what you want. When you ask your child to
do something, be specific about what you want them to do. For example, rather
than saying "Please clean your room," say "Please put your
clothes away in the dresser." This will help ensure that your child knows
exactly what you expect from them.
2. Explain the reasons for your requests. Whenever possible,
explain the reasons for your requests.
7.
Alternatives to Punishment
It can be difficult to find effective alternatives to punishment when you're trying to discipline your child. Sometimes it feels like the only thing we know how to do is react with anger and frustration, which can lead to more problems in the long run. In this article, we'll explore some effective alternatives to punishment that can help you build a better relationship with your child while also teaching them important life lessons. The Importance of Discipline The first thing we need to establish is the importance of discipline. Discipline is essential for growth - both physical and emotional. It teaches children how to regulate their own behavior, setting boundaries for themselves and learning what is and is not acceptable. When discipline is used effectively, it can help children develop a sense of self-control, empathy, and respect for others.
8. Encouraging
Autonomy
The best way to encourage your child’s development is to promote autonomy. What is autonomy? It’s the ability to be in charge of oneself, to make choices and decisions based on one’s own needs and wants. When you encourage autonomy in your child, you are teaching her how to think for herself, make good choices, and be confident in her abilities. There are many ways to promote autonomy in your child. Here are a few of the most important ones: Respect your child’s feelings and opinions. Encourage your child to participate in decision making. Let your child explore and learn on her own. Provide opportunities for your child to take risks and experience failure. Support your child’s independence.
9. Praise
There's a lot of talk these days about the importance of praising your child. But what does that mean, exactly? And how can you do it effectively?
In this article, we'll discuss the benefits of praising your
child and provide some tips on how to do it effectively. We'll also provide
some examples of praise that you can use in your own home. Help your children
make the decision for themselves
1 Praise children who are safe-guarding their life
2 Praise your children who work hard
3 Praise children who are standing strong
4 Praise your gratitude towards your children
5 Praise your child who looking back before forward
6 Praise children who encourages someone
7 Praise your children who always stays positive
8 Praise your children who
thinks positive about future
9 Praise your children with good art
10 Praise your children can be passive.
11 Praise your children who see of be able.
12 Praise your children who looks after others or animals
13 Praise your child who makes a joke
14 Praise your children who solves the problem together
16 Praise your children for helping your family
17 Praise your children who see value in other.
18 Praise your child by trying their best
19 Praise your children for their efforts
20 Praise your child for their well-ethics
21 Praise your child for their hard-work